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She Needs Your Help

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Last week, I had to find a way to provide a family member with all the basic essentials of life. She had nothing but a bed, a couch and a few personal belongings. It is a very long story that I will not tell except to say that her situation is of no fault of her own and I would not wish it upon anyone. Helping her was a necessity. It reminded me of how blessed I am to have a roof over my head and food to eat. It reminded me of others who are in similar situations of desperation as my family member. It reminded me of Cheryl, a fellow blogger who just needs a job to turn things around. Sounds easy, but it isn’t.

I know I have stood on this soap box a few times already, but it’s my soap box. You can simply turn the page if you wish…

 We are not all given the same opportunities.

We are not all blessed with families that are willing or able to help us.

We are not all blessed with healthy bodies or healthy minds.

We are not all blessed with minimal disasters that fall upon us.

We are not all fortunate to succeed from our hard work. Some work harder than us and get half as far.

We are not all able to work.

Some of us struggle every day just to eat, pay a bill, keep our sanity or find even one small fragment of hope to carry on.

 I am asking that you really think about how you will be inconvenienced if you were to give a small amount to someone who is at risk of losing their home. If I can leave myself short to reach out to another, then believe me…so can you.

When you truly give, you look into your heart, not your bank book.

I hope you will look into your heart to help my fellow blogger and friend.

http://allbuthomeless.wordpress.com/

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Searching For Signs of Life

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I usually alternate between my “50 Things I’ve Learned” posts, some poetry, amateur photography and the occasional reblog.
Today is different.

Today I feel the need to simply vent about something that is bothering me and express what is on my mind. I can’t move forward until I do.
I stumbled upon a blogger named Jorge who is desperate for funding in order to keep himself and his seven year old daughter from being homeless. I know it is hard to believe that there is not a support system in place in the U.S.A.  that will make sure this doesn’t happen, but apparently there are voids in the system. He lives in a small town in Kansas. He has approached social services many times and has been told that he only qualifies for food assistance and medicare for his daughter. He qualifies for $225 per month to live on. From what I read on his blog, he has been on an extremely frustrating job search for months. As his savings have run dry, he faces the prospect of the streets with his daughter. For this reason, he has resorted to reaching out to total strangers for help for daily survival as he continues his search. He served in the military but was discharged because he did not have a sufficient family plan in place that would secure his daughter’s well being if something were to happen to him. He has knocked on many doors for help and he has been turned down.

This is the story. This is the story that I choose to believe based on the consistent information provided in his blog, his responses to questions that others have asked and on my OWN intuition that I have great trust in.
It is HIS story and there are so many other stories like his. We always have the choice to believe them or not. We always have the choice of acting on them or not. We are privileged to have the option to make a difference in someone’s life. There are some things that we will never be 100 percent sure of. Does this mean that we should turn the other way?
What I am struggling with is humanity in general, the lack of human spirit and the fear of taking risks on others. I am surprised by the overall distrust and lack of response to someone’s pleas for help when they are really not asking for much.

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You can hear the frustration in Jorge’s posts. He has been faulted often for the way he presents his dilemma and others do have the right to their opinion seeing that he has opened himself up to be scrutinized. Yes, maybe Jorge’s strength is not in how he writes.  Maybe he sounds ungrateful as he talks about the lack of donations he has received. I am sure there is more to Jorge than we can surmise from his blog. I am sure there is more that is just none of our business. He has already forfeited his dignity and many details of his circumstances. It is my belief, however, that when we truly give from the heart, we may never know all the details. We may not know for sure. Knowing would be easy. Giving when you know for sure you have nothing to lose , is easy. The biggest gift you can give is one that leaves you without something. Maybe that “something” is certainty. Maybe we are not to know for sure when we truly give.

Can the homeless man on the street prove to you that he is there based on a string of bad luck or lack of assistance for a mental disorder? We can walk away because we assume he is there based on his own demise or we can simply give him a few dollars we’d probably not even miss to get him through another day. Yes, maybe he’s an alcoholic. Some live in houses and some live on the street. The only difference is that the ones in houses have the means to stay there……for now.
There is a point where someone BECOMES homeless. Their resources become depleted. They may have additional stresses that catapult the downward spiral. They may have family that cannot or will not help. They may not have any family at all. They may be inflicted by a mental illness. One of three of us will experience this in our lifetime. Take a good look at what is available for help in this area. It is a crime.

I ask of you to look within your heart, not your mind. Free yourself of doubt and greed….and simply give. You don’t have to donate to Jorge. You don’t have to help out Sherry in Florida, who is also struggling . You can help the next person you see on the street, the one you are not sure of. It is your own risk to take. Think of what you could lose.
Then think about what you could gain.
http://jorgeoyola716.wordpress.com/
http://allbuthomeless.wordpress.com/

Do I Dare Accept the Super Sweet Blogger Award?

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It was  SO SWEEEEET of Melanie at http://wordifull.com/ to honor me with this award. I will gladly accept based on the fact that she said I was sweet in a “non saccharine kind of way”. Wheeeew! Thanks Melanie!! Putting me on a pedestal of pleasantness would be hard to live up to. The truth is I’m not always that sweet!

Be sure to pay a visit to Melanie’s blog. It is a very diverse collection of writing styles and formats. There is something for everyone. Now to answer….

The 5 Super Sweet questions.

1.       Cookies or cake?

CAKE!!

2.       Chocolate or vanilla?

Don’t make me choose.

3.       Favourite sweet treat?

  Pumpkin pie with maple syrup. Yes, really… but only with REAL maple syrup.

4.       When do you crave sweet things the most?

    After a meal, when I’m full. Go figure!! (literally…there goes the figure)

5.       Sweet nickname?

Ok, I can’t lie. Someone at work calls me “Cupcake”.  I have no idea what I have done to deserve it and I want to wallop her every time she says it. Hah! See! I told you I’m not so sweet.

It was very difficult to choose a baker’s dozen of 13 from the many super sweet bloggers I follow regularly. With that in mind, I decided to simply do a search for blogs under topics such as sweet and kindness.  I managed to narrow it down to these sweet treats. Grab yourself a coffee and indulge!

http://pieitforward.wordpress.com/ Do you like pie? You have to read it to believe it.

http://alexandraphoenixart.wordpress.com/ Check out the gummy bear chandelier.

http://mymorningstories.wordpress.com/   Hundreds of beautiful breakfast photos.

http://ilovechildrensbooks.wordpress.com/ A sweet collection of children’s books.

http://sugarandcinnamon.com/  Goes something like this….scroll…YUM!!!….scroll….YUM!!!

http://smallactofkindness.wordpress.com/  Inspiring words and images.

http://365cupsofkindness.com/   “Fully Caffeinated Generosity and Hope”.

http://allbuthomeless.wordpress.com/   Please help this sweet lady.

http://ahumanistsperspective.wordpress.com/  Thought provoking poetry.

http://retrospectiveview.wordpress.com/  For some really sweet music.

http://randomsandsweets.wordpress.com/    It’s willy nilly and wonderful.

http://emmasbakingaddiction.wordpress.com/   Speaking of cupcakes….and more.

http://thingsufindthatareunfairandunjust.wordpress.com/   Because not all things are sweet and we should talk about them.

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