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50 Things I’ve Learned in 50 Years….#17

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September 2011 450

#17. “If you think about where a person is coming from, what they’ve been through in their life, how they’ve been raised, you will find it easier to forgive, understand and accept that they don’t and may never look at things the same way that you do.”


This one is golden.

Do you want to be empowered? Free yourself from the frustration? Save some time and energy?

Ok, now I sound like an advertisement.

The truth is…

When this little light bulb of enlightenment switched on in my brain, it changed my life.


Not everyone was blessed with a loving beginning. They are what they came from. They may not be able to see or feel more than that. Not everyone has sailed a calm sea without drowning in pain or suffering…and some are still drowning. Some have a point to make, an axe to grind or a need to be heard. Some people can only feel better by making others feel worse.

Some people will not change. Some people don’t need to change…not for you.

Sometimes you have to rearrange your thoughts, open your mind and accept.

Let them be who they are.  Let it be what it is.

A huge burden can be lifted when you do.

10 responses »

  1. Preach! We must be on the same wave length today..This morning I left a tease for whats been on my mind…So close to what you’ve written..@ “Your perception is not my reality” Been using that word alot as of late..Perception. Hopefully will be able to complete the post before I pass out tonight. Already looking through “slits” though …Anyways I’ve been enlightened by your dose of enlightenment. (we need a spell check option when leaving comments) Lol

  2. Well in 52 years I am just now coming to grip with this reality ( especially in my own family) 🙂 You know when I was a kid, I thought for certain I might be adopted. NO such luck! They are mine, I am theirs YET I am so different from them yet the same. Sighs. And with my husband, he too has family issues. And my family look like absolute saints compared. When he grows angry or sullen I have to remember where he comes from. Anyway, felt compelled to respond to this post . Good One! The world would be a better place if we could just learn to be a little more accepting of each other. hugs. Good Post Mish! hugs.

    • I’ve come to the conclusion that within a family, sometimes it’s just about how each individual person decides to interpret their childhood and then most importantly, how they choose to deal with it. Thanks for your comments, Sherry. 🙂

  3. This is so true. I wish everyone took the time to do this. In fact, I just gave a presentation at work that included a section on empathy for our presenters and support center personnel to understand where our customers are coming from. Genius post!

  4. I have struggled with this VERY thing for years! Thank you for being another “sign” to me that I need to work on opening my mind to gaining better understanding of others. This is an excellent post… and it spoke mountains!

    • I still struggle with it too and have to remind myself, but I have always been interested in people behaviours, why they do what they do. When I focus on this, it really does help with putting things into perspective. Thanks for your kind comments. 🙂

  5. This is SO TRUE! And it’s a good reminder to us all to not be so quick to judge another. Love it, great post!


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